Sex & Pancakes

No matter what your pleasure, get health tips with our sex column by Melissa Fuller.

  • Feeling Whipped By The Commercialization of Valentine’s Day?

    February 14th was my anniversary with my high school sweetheart. Though we had been dating for a while, we waited until Valentine’s Day to become official — because that’s what you do when you’re a teenager falling in love for the first time. We were together for a pretty long time, and after several years the pressure of Valentine’s Day anniversaries got pretty intense. We had big expectations, and every year we tried to outdo the previous one with more expensive gifts until we eventually became bitter about how excited we used to get about the day.

  • Pregnancy Options

    My period is late so I took two pregnancy tests, but they each came out different… I don’t know what to do now or what to do if I’m pregnant. I always thought I’d have an abortion if it happened but now I feel confused. Help?

  • Breaking It Off with a Prof

    What do you do if you are sexually involved with a married prof? You want to break it off but he is getting kind of needy and you want to end it nicely.

  • Friends With An Ex

    Do you think it’s possible to be friends with an ex? I’d like to believe it is but it’s never really happened to me.

  • Committing To Your Sexuality

    There are many things I see impeding people [from more fully enjoying their sexuality], myself included. I’ll focus on one thing that has been on my mind recently: a lack of commitment to learning about and exploring one’s sexuality.

  • Fertility Awareness Methods

    I’m curious about natural contraception methods, but it seems like there are many different approaches and I’m overwhelmed trying to pick one. Is there one you suggest?
    —Only Natural

  • You’ve Said a Mouthful

    What is the most sensitive, polite way to convince a woman that (mutual) fellatio is a really great thing? She just seems dead against it but I know it would give our sex life together another sort of dimension…
    —Mouthing Off

  • We’re All That Kind of Girl

    We frame these actions as nonconsensual, labeling the kids as sex offenders and their actions as assault. Yet the law holds that people are incapable of giving sexual consent until the age of 16, and consent remains a concept that even adults are struggling to get right. Then why do we expect children to know what it is and how to ask for it?

  • Come Prepared

    A condom breaking during sex, a forgotten birth control dose or an unwanted pregnancy can be stressful situations, and having to find information or make a decision when you’re already in them can be overwhelming.

  • BDSM Is About Consent

    BDSM requires a sophisticated set of communication and relationships skills, and it requires a level of trust that is difficult to casually achieve.